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What I’ve Learnt From Talking to Myself

December 5, 2015

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Hi, I'm Laura — Training Neuroscientist, ICF accredited Coach and here to give you the science to help you succeed in business and life

Meet Laura

OK, I admit it.


My name is Laura and I talk to myself…….all the time.


I’m a serial self-talker. I even get into fights with myself and usually lose.


I can often be found talking to myself in public (embarrassing!) and when I catch someone’s eye, I try to pretend I’m just yawning (in a really weird way!).


But I find that talking to myself helps me clear things up in my mind.


It helps me to make decisions having thought through all angles and I can really bash things out in my mind.


There’s a darker side to the self-talk though (not in a weird crazy voices kind of way).


But the self-talk that isn’t productive.


I find this type happens when I wake up in the night and can’t get back to sleep.


It’s the annoying voice that worries if I’ve taken on more than I can handle, if my next programme will sell, if my next blog will be read, etc, etc.


It’s the voice of my self-doubt and left unchecked, it can really start to take over.


Have you ever noticed what you’re telling yourself on a daily basis?


What’s the first thought that comes into your mind when you wake up?


And the last thought before you go to bed at night?


As women, we can be so harsh on ourselves.


We berate ourselves for not being ambitious enough, slim enough, clever enough, you name it, we say it.


But would you say to your best friend what you say to yourself? Would you look at your friend and tell her she was ugly?


Have you ever looked in the mirror and told yourself you’re ugly?


We can be super critical of ourselves and such harsh commentators on our own lives.


Not only is this demoralising, it can become your truth. You become your thoughts.


So if you’re telling yourself you can’t do it, you won’t. If you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough, you won’t be.


But if you start treating yourself like your most prized possession and actually be kind to yourself, imagine the possibilities.


Imagine if you were your own biggest supporter. If you championed your life and all the amazing things you are.


And you actually started to believe in yourself…….how amazing would that be!


So this week, I’m going to be my own best champion.


I’m not going to run around telling everybody I’m amazing (that with the talking to myself could get me locked up!).


But I am going to make an effort to be kind to myself.


I’m going to look in the mirror and pay myself a compliment. When I wake up, I’m going to tell myself that I’m good enough and today is going to be a fantastic day.


Because until you tell yourself this, you won’t believe it.


So, what have you been telling yourself you’re not good enough at?


What nasty comments have you been telling yourself?


And what could you tell yourself today instead?


Because what I’ve learnt from talking to myself is you may look a little crazy, but the things you are telling yourself are even more insane.


I love hearing from you guys so please get in touch with your comments.


Until next time


Much love